I read this article by Trish Ringley(http://abt.cm/1K4iO4t), and point that sticks out to me is all of your emotions are normal.   I have struggled throughout the years to control my emotions, because as a child I was taught I controlled my emotions. When I think back to my time as a parent with a baby in the NICU, I think of the anxiety and nervousness. I think of the worry, the pain the guilt and how I tried to keep a positive attitude no matter what. I think of all the tears I cried wishing I could be with my Son he was in the NICU.

 

I loss my precious little boy 18 days after he went into the NICU. The grief I experienced was at a level I had never experienced. I knew there was not anything wrong with me, but I had to distance myself from others who tried to “help me not be anger, not feel rage, and not feel betrayal or loss.”

 

It took me over year to come out of the fog of these primal emotions and to engage others, semi normal. What I have learned through my NICU experience is that once you have gone through this experience, your life will never be the same.

 

I hope the message that Trish shared in this article is shared with all parents who enter the NICU. So that they can embrace their emotions as they full participate in the care of their baby.