Ladies and gentlemen, again it is Felicity86 presenting the mini-series on Dreams!

Thank you for following this series of posts up until this point. I hope this particular post makes you think like I did when I first discovered this information!

 

I recall observing a documentary revolving around dreams and sleep study.

In the documentary “NOVA What are Dreams?” a particular subject was discussed and the narrator really caught my attention.

This study included the dreams of a 48-year old professional man.

The individual who studied him, Antonio Zadra, recalled that the man had several dreams in which a circumstances that he could not control would occur.

During the dream, when these occurrences would happen he would reap the consequences of his  wife and sometimes his mother would yell,blame, and argue with him.

And no matter how he tried to fix it, he kept getting blamed. No matter what he did the situation would not change.

Here is a paraphrased example of one of his dreams:

“In one dream, the 48 year old man woke up in the morning. His wife began to cook breakfast and he put on some coffee for the morning. 

All of a sudden, the coffee pot began to run over and over. It ran all over the kitchen counter. 

His wife yelled at him “What did you do?!” “I didn’t do Anything!” he responded. So he tried unplugging the coffee pot. Nothing changed. 

He tried removing the glass container from the coffee pot. Nothing changed. He mother showed up.Everything got loud and he tried to defend himself. 

The man woke up.  ” – Antonio Zadra, Nova “What Are Dreams?”

According to Zadra, the man had a series of dreams similar to the one above.

Zadra believed that the series of dreams the man was having revealed that his primary concerns centered around his relationship issues, especially with the ladies in his family.I personally believe that the dreams showed the feelings of powerlessness he had in resolving issues and

proving his competence to his loved ones. He just could not garner their understanding and appreciation.

Regardless of my opinion, five years later, the man went through a divorce.

From my own experience, I do believe that some dreams can be revelatory  of issues buried deep in our hearts.

Issues that we as individuals may have difficulty facing.

If we can, I think we should learn from our dreams. I will give a personal example:

“A few years ago, I dreamed I was in the stands of a movie theater. Everyone in my university attended the movie and in the top of the stands, I had a group of friends and people I knew.  Most of the people in the stands watched forward, but I was not interested. Instead I was focused on joining my group of friends. There was a guy I was talking to and a girl I did not recognize sitting next to him. The group laughed and smiled and welcomed me into the intimate setting they had created. But as soon as I sat down and relaxed everyone went silent. The smiles turned to cool expressions and the guy put his arm around the girl next to him. I stood up immediately and turned behind me to see some stairs. I walked up the stairs to what looked like a professional setting. In front of me were a really tall man and woman. I knew to follow them although I had not seen their faces.“

I believe this dream is pretty straightforward. Even without all of the details I have excluded, you can figure out pretty quickly the nature and

meaning of this dream.

While I wasn’t distracted by what others  focused on, I was still focused on something temporary. I was concerned about friends I knew and a person I liked. But just when I got comfortable with my life socially, that life shifted. In that year, I stopped being friends with all of those people. It wasn’t by my choice, but that time had ended. The guy suddenly took interest in someone else (her physical appearance had similarities to the girl I saw in my dream). So in the end, I am not as close with this group of people as I once was. Around that time, I also found a job and I am learning from people I did not know before about being in the workforce (various mentors).

The dream was about me not settling in my current state because my life would move to a new stage suddenly in a way I kinda wasn’t looking forward to. That group of friends was temporary. That guy was temporary. Of course, the care-free luxuries of college was temporary. I wanted a job, but I was comfortable with my old friends. Yet I was so focused on hanging out with them, I wasn’t focusing on my job hunt like I should have been. But people grow apart. I needed balance and I needed to know to be a good friend without putting all of my eggs in one basket.

The dreams foreshadowed  change, good and bad. Whether the dream reflected matters/trauma  that weighed heavily on the heart or

served as the harbinger of unexpected circumstances, the dream served as a tool that caught the attention and prepared both dreamers for changes that marked the various seasons of life.

It just happened while their defenses were down: in their sleep.

 

If you have a dream you want to tell, or if you want to give your input on the dreams and topics of the mini-series so far, feel free to comment below! What’s the next segment on? Colors in Dreams and Their Meanings!

 

 

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